Perinatal Trauma
Whether you’ve been through a traumatic delivery, a NICU stay or other complications, trauma surrounding pregnancy and birth is something that can have profound effects on your life long after the danger is over.
It’s difficult to see other parents who had a seemingly stress-free pregnancy and delivery.
It seems like people don’t understand what you went through.
It seems impossible to process the emotions surrounding your pregnancy and delivery, while still being present for your family.
We get it, and we can help.
Pregnancy and birth related trauma are a common cause for PMADs—Perinatal Mood and Anxiety Disorders. These can include anxiety, depression, panic, obsessive compulsive disorder, psychosis, and more. It isn’t just sadness — there’s way more to it than that.
But you don’t have to go it alone.
Our clinicians are highly skilled and trained to help guide you through the emotional healing necessary after pregnancy or birth related trauma.
Whether or not you have an official PMADs diagnosis, you don’t have to feel like this forever. Although working through trauma can be a lifelong process, we can help you feel like yourself again. You deserve to feel like yourself again.
You deserve to feel joy again.
Whether it’s difficulty managing emotions around a medically dangerous pregnancy, navigating the aftermath of a traumatic delivery, an unexpected NICU stay or more, we are here to help.
Our clinicians can work with you alone or with both parenting partners. We welcome families of all kinds—there’s no judgment here and all families are welcome.
Schedule a complimentary consult with ERA and decide if we’re the right therapists to help you. When you schedule a perinatal counseling session, you’ll be able to pick a date and time that works for you and your life.
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Perintatal Mood and Anxiety Disorders. It’s basically just an acronym that encompasses ALL of the possible mental health stuff that can come up in trying to conceive, infertility, pregnancy, birth, and postpartum. It includes depression, anxiety, panic, OCD, trauma, bipolar disorder, PTSD, psychosis, and more.
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Symptoms can vary somewhat person to person and appear up to the first year following the birth or additional of a child into your family. Up to 15% of postpartum people experience significant depression.
Some common symptoms include:
Feelings of anger or irritability
Lack of interest in the baby
Appetite and sleep disturbance
Crying and sadness
Feelings of guilt, shame or hopelessness
Loss of interest, joy or pleasure in things you used to enjoy
Possible thoughts of harming the baby or yourself
Information from Postpartum Support International
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Around 6% of pregnant people and 10% of postpartum people experience anxiety. Anxiety diagnoses can include panic and OCD.
Constant worry
Feeling that something bad is going to happen
Racing thoughts
Disturbances of sleep and appetite
Inability to sit still
Physical symptoms like dizziness, hot flashes, and nausea
Information from Postpartum Support International
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Basically, OCD (obsessive compulsive disorder) that occurs in the postpartum period.
Some common symptoms include:
Obsessions, also called intrusive thoughts, which are persistent, repetitive thoughts or mental images related to the baby. These thoughts are very upsetting and not something the woman has ever experienced before.
Compulsions, where the mom may do certain things over and over again to reduce her fears and obsessions. This may include things like needing to clean constantly, check things many times, count or reorder things.
A sense of horror about the obsessions
Fear of being left alone with the infant
Hypervigilance in protecting the infant
Moms with postpartum OCD know that their thoughts are bizarre and are very unlikely to ever act on them.
Information from Postpartum Support International
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Several ways. Since you’ve found us, that’s an option. You can schedule a consultation with one of our therapists here.
Postpartum Support International also has coordinators that are able to connect with individuals and families in need and help them find resources. You can call or text the PSI Helpline at 1-800-944-4773 or fill out this form to be contacted by a volunteer. PSI has a whole bunch of helpful resources, including free online support groups.
If you aren’t interested in seeing one of our therapists, you can also search the PSI provider directory for a clinician that fits your needs.
If you are in the Milwaukee area, Moms Mental Health Initiative is also a great resource with a trusted provider list.
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Basically, if you’re here reading about it and wondering if maybe you should…. you probably should.
In general, most people wait longer than necessary before they seek help for any mental health concern. We’re big advocates of early help, but see people from “Hey I think I might struggle when I do try to get pregnant” all the way through “My kid is 12 and I’m not ok”.
It’s never too early, it’s never too late.
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It happens. Asking for help is HARD. Finding a therapist you click with and gets you and what you’re going through is even harder.
But there is help out there. You deserve to feel better. We get that it’s hard to decide to come to therapy, and SUPER hard to actually show up. Even searching for somebody online is a big first step. We’re here to walk you through all the other steps.
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Yep, absolutely. Up to 10% of non birthing partners will have clinically significant mental health symptoms following the birth or addition of a child into their family.
We absolutely work with partners, too!
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Yep. While some providers wouldn’t label that “perinatal”, your story and losses matter. Those losses and the grief that comes with them may include actual pregnancy, embryo, or child losses, but also the loss of the family story or journey that you thought you and your partner would have.
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First off - your story matters, and it is safe to tell your story here.
We have therapists that are supportive and validating of people who have had to terminate a pregnancy, no matter the story or reason behind it.
Emily also has experience and knowledge providing support to people currently making a decision to terminate (either for medical reasons, called TFMR, or otherwise) or awaiting a procedure. If you are in immediate need of support in this area, please reach out to her directly at 414-301-3411 or emily@erawellnesstherapy.com. Please note that our voicemail and email systems are confidential, but you may want to be cautious about the information you leave on either. You may indicate this need for urgency and confidentiality by using the phrase “I am looking for resources for stress management”.
If we need to return your call or email, we will not identify the reason that we are contacting you, just “Emily from ERA Wellness returning your call”.
FAQs About Counseling for Perinatal Trauma
ERA's Favorite Perinatal Mental Health Resources
Postpartum Support International
PSI provides direct support to families, professional training, and a bridge between the two. There are fact sheets about various perinatal mental health disorders, as well as links to state chapters, area providers, and online support groups.
Check out the Wisconsin chapter here.
Moms Mental Health Initiative
MMHI is a fantastic Milwaukee area resource. Their mission is to help moms navigate perinatal mood and anxiety disorders by sharing information, connecting them to resources, and providing peer-driven support. They do also offer a closed online support group. If you’re in the Southeast Wisconsin area and looking for resources - this should be your first stop.
The Periscope Project
The Periscope Project is a free resource for health care providers caring for pregnant and postpartum women who are struggling with mental health or substance use disorders. If your doc isn’t sure about prescribing meds for you or wants to consult with a perinatal specific psychiatrist - this is the place to connect them to.